"… What really matters is that he will love you,that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you the freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy.” -Gordon B. Hinckley
a dating and courtship relationship, I would not have you spend five
minutes with someone who belittles you, who is constantly critical of
you, who is cruel at your expense and may even call it humor. Life is
tough enough without having the person who is supposed to love you
leading the assault on your self-esteem, your sense of dignity, your
confidence, and your joy. In this person’s care you deserve to feel
physically safe and emotionally secure.
of the First Presidency have taught that 'any form of physical or
mental abuse to any woman is not worthy of any priesthood holder' and
that no 'man who holds the priesthood of God [should] abuse his wife in
any way, [or] demean or injure or take undue advantage of [any]
woman'—and that includes friends, dates, sweethearts, and fiancées, to
say nothing of wives.
tantrums are not cute even in children; they are despicable in adults,
especially adults who are supposed to love each other. We are too easily
provoked; we are too inclined to think that our partner meant to hurt
us—meant to do us evil, so to speak; and in defensive or jealous
response we too often rejoice when we see them make a mistake and find
them in a fault. Let’s show some discipline on this one. Act a little
more maturely. Bite your tongue if you have to. “He that is slow to
anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he
that taketh a city.
of the great purposes of true love is to help each other in these
times. No one ought to have to face such trials alone. We can endure
almost anything if we have someone at our side who truly loves us, who
is easing the burden and lightening the load.
ships, people have differing capacities at different times and even
different days in their lives. In our relationships we need to establish
our own Plimsoll marks and help identify them in the lives of those we
love. Together we need to monitor the load levels and be helpful in
shedding or at least readjust- ing some cargo if we see our sweetheart
is sinking. Then, when the ship of love is stabi- lized, we can evaluate
long-term what has to continue, what can be put off until another time,
and what can be put off permanently.
...Jesus Christ, the Light of the World, is the only lamp by which you can successfully see the path of love and happiness for you and for your sweetheart."